QUIET SPACE
In the book how to be a better student I talk about finding quiet space. So I want you to do that. This will be your homework. Find quiet space. That might be at the library. It might be in a space in your home. Maybe at school. If not at a library maybe study hall or a reading lab or even a classroom some or other place that you can find. Let this be your oasis, your go to place. mayb. This is your duty to find whatever is suitable and safe for you. Wherever it is find it. I want you to take a moment and be in that space for 15 minutes. No distraction no sound just sit in silence. This is important because you might need to get used to this. A lot of people like distraction and busyness here I want you to relish in stopping quieting your mind and being alone. What does this feel like to you? For some it is strange. This is the environment that I want you to be in. A lot. To push yourself to getting into being better whether it’s in life, academics, parenting or health improving is growth and this can help catapult you to where you want to be where you need to be where you should be in life so that you can be great. If you are finding it difficult to get quiet try noise canceling headphones. do your own due diligence . Consider safety as well as effectiveness. if you can create space that will allow quiet and comfort you should build that for yourself, a nice comfy chair in the corner )click). Drown out the sounds. Some people may go as far as getting sound panels to dampen noise. Finding quiet space in the home is highly recommended because it will be your go to place that is easy to go to and won’t require travel. It is also familiar surroundings and a place that you can personalize. But of course not everyone can make this happen. Some people have room mates some people have spaces that are not conducive to quiet so you should seek it. If you are not that handy then take a field trip to town and find your space. Quiet is what we are aiming for. Field trip.Libraries. I will be talking about libraries ad nauseam. There are many different types of libraries. There are school libraries private libraries public libraries spaces at schools. Maybe even outside at the park maybe in your car. Just find it. Now. Quiet your mind. Just be. (YouTube video of 15 minutes of silencing) Give yourself 15 minutes. Ok Time is up. How do you feel? Was that relaxing. Did you encounter any distractions? Were you truly able to be alone and have quiet? If you were distracted or the environment too noisy this may not be the right place for you. Did you fall asleep? It’s ok if that happens. Your body probably needed that. I will be talking about the importance of sleep in a future blog. Yes we want you to take care of yourself. For now I want you to feel that this spot is the one for you. Whether you created it in your home or travelled to it make it your place so that you can be here to study, write, do mindful exercises, be alone, whatever you so desire. Now after your 15 minutes are up. I want you to open the to do planner. Got it? Ok now there is on the left side a place where you will write down the things you need to do but for now I want you to concentrate on the right side. There is the brainstorm page. Now here is the magic spot. After your 15 minute silence, I want you to think of what you’ve been not doiing that you really need to do. Do you procrastinate? What are you not doing that you should be doing, Here is an example. Maybe you need to go to the doctor and you are too afraid? Maybe you need to lose weight and don’t know how? Let’s explore how this to do list journal can help you. IN the brainstorm section write down your fear. Why are you afraid of the doctor? Maybe a scary diagnosis? Write it down. Maybe you have googled your issues and you just don’t want to go for fear of what the doctor might find out. Write down what is preventing you. If it is fear of the unknown do you have a support system? I talk about support in how to be a better student. Get someone to go with you if you can. It is difficult facing fears. I understand. I will tell you that medical advancements have a come a long long way and I want to encourage you to go. Write that down. know that not knowing is worse than knowing. Write that down. There is a certain amount of relief you will feel when you are trying to fix a problem. Write it down, something there’s a certain amount of power you take back when you are proactive in what you are trying to change and improve instead of being victimized by your fear. Write this down. Find support family members friends advocates community resources? write down the names of these people. Then write that you willl be on the path to knowing. And doing something about your situation. That’s power! Enrich yourself and tap into your power. Write anything else that comes to mind in your brainstorming session. This is your journal. This is just an example of how to make this journal work for you. Try this. think about rewarding yourself after your visit. I want you to now break this down in to smaller details. Spot at home, school, library, outside when conditions are favorable. Mind you wherever you go let it be in a safe environment. This is not an activity I want you doing that Is turning you around and problematic. , Let’s do a brainstorming session.